People have different ideas about what is good and bad behaviour. What you consider to be bad behaviour might seem normal to other parents, and the other way round.
If your child is behaving badly, first consider whether their behaviour is a problem. Do you need to do something about it now, or is it a phase they'll grow out of? It may be best to live with it for a while. Always think about whether your child’s behaviour is a problem for other people. Behaviour that might not worry you can become a problem when it affects those around you.
Children need consistency. If you react to your child’s behaviour in one way one day and a different way the next, it’s confusing for them. It’s also important that everyone close to your child deals with the problem in the same way. Empty threats can make things worse. Make sure you keep your cool and don’t over react. Remember the key is to stay in control. Once you told your child off move onto other things that you can both enjoy and feel good about.
Talk to your child
Communication is key. For example always explain to them why you want them to hold your hand while crossing the road, or while they shouldn’t try to grab your cup of coffee. Make sure you encourage your child to talk and give them the opportunity to explain why they’re angry or upset. This will help reduce their frustration.
Don’t give your child a reward before they’ve done what they were asked to do. That’s a bribe, not a reward!
Rewards are healthy for kids because kids learn that privileges and extra incentives must be earned. Bribes teach kids to use their behavior as a way to manipulate others. Although bribes can be tempting as it can make kids change their behavior immediately, it doesn’t teach appropriate skills over the long haul. In real life, you don’t receive your paycheck until you’ve done the work. Positive attention and praise are the most effective rewards for good behaviour because they reinforce good behaviour on the spot and help a child make the connection between what you are saying and what they’ve just done.